Lightning (FF XIII), alpha female and gender role (part 2)

I recently visited one of my elderly relative and told the story about her adopted daughter. This woman came from China mainland to marry Singaporean husband for search of better living. It turned out that the husband really come from dysfunctional family and he and his brother had been jailed several times, uneducated and unable to hold steady jobs at all times. Worse, they have three kids and both her parents and parents in law stay at the same apartment. As the result, she effectively become sole family breadwinner. I am sure that such stories are not uncommon across any society, as the middle class economy deteriorate and a lot of blue-collar jobs that traditionally dominated by men are either outsourced and automated, more and more female are forced to engage in the workforce.

And then, this dynamics quite obviously affect the gender relation as the natural female hypergamy necessitate that she married someone which is more capable or higher social status than her. Of course, in Christianity (and any monotheist religion), all men are expected to be head of the household and it is more natural for women to submit to men if they recognize their husband has higher capability and hence make better family leader than them. However, for the Lightnings of the society, the number of men with higher capability or social status than them is so few and hence there will be three available options for careerist women: Polygamy, spinsterhood or role reversal.

Traditional societies of the past let men with high status to marry multiple women. Some of the church fathers (I forgot their names) also allowed polygamy for procreation purpose (Although they did not like the practice very much). In the Bible, God Himself said that He gave King David his wives (explicitly approved his polygamy). However, most of modern nation (except some of Islamic states) ban polygamy and hence it is a difficult option. There can be some workaround for those really insists, like having this relationship without registering to civil courts. While It is true that the wives and their offspring marrying alpha males will be taken care of…..I personally also dislike polygamy as it will exacerbate social inequality. The top guys will get all highly-valued women whereas many of average men with decent personality who will make for good father will be single, society will decline hence these men do not have good motivation to toil as no future for them. The Lord’s command to be fruitful and multiply applies to all able-bodied male and not just alphas.

The next option for Lightning is to remain unmarried (which is what happened the end of the story….although somehow it make some of the fans unsatisfied and created cartoon and animation to pair her with Hope or Noctis…). This is also, in my opinion, is not a good option. A lot of these women have high-paying jobs but wasting much of their money on luxurious living (traveling, dining, beauty treatment, and much more). Alternatively, they also may spend their entire life on building their empire and raising through ladder to obtain fame and respect.

After observing so much about many philosophy and lifestyle of many prominent figures upon which society is built upon, I concluded that even visions to build and shape society with both ‘religious’ and ‘secular’ tone are simply out of touch with reality. The world is not intended to be perfect and most of the time, your empire worsen the world instead of improving it. The realistic purpose of life, other than knowing and worshipping God, is to raise a godly family and obtain long lasting friendship with people you encounter in society.  Luxurious living or empire-building is short-lived and leave you with regret. It will leave the God’s command to be fruitful and multiply unfulfilled, which leave Lightnings with the last option…

Yes, unfortunately role reversal is the most realistic option for Lightnings. Since she is capable and achiever in her career, and since a proper family with children will need both a breadwinner and a homemaker, to fulfill God’s command of be fruitful and multiply, she need to find a husband who is nice guy, supportive of her career and willing to be homemaker. Note that this should not negate the obligation of her respecting her husband. Her breadwinner status should not excuse her to render God’s command as void. The leadership in the family is something that is ordained by God and not by meritocracy. In fact, you can see many instances in society, leaders are not necessarily more competent than their subordinates. This is something that need to be preserved because contractual tenure based on constant performance measure lead to instability, fake promise, and short-term thinking. We should judge leaders based on their commitment to adhere to righteous principles and not just by capabilities. Having said that, I would not say it will not be easy to the male ego… (The world is a complex thing….).

In the next post, I will elaborate on my thought how ideal living arrangement for normal men and women

About edwinlt

I am currently Indonesian expatriate working in Singapore. I am currently working as security researcher in National University of Singapore. I write this blog to share to readers about my life principle on various aspects, like religion, politics, business, relationship, and technology. I am interested in alternative worldviews because I found that many things taught to us by establishments are not true and harmful. My dream is to become self-sufficient in food and energy. Hopefully, someday I can have my own fruit garden and my own power plant and able to sell my electricity to power company. I hope readers enjoy my blog.
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